What to do if You or Someone You Love is in a Cult

Hey there world, This series has been somewhat of a surprise to me – not in terms of content, but in terms of readership. Ordinarily, I would have gone off into other topics again by now, but due to the fact that this has been picked up by another blog, I need to finish it where…

Thinking Errors and Thought Stoppers in Cults

Welcome to part 6 of the “Cults and Unhealthy Groups” series. I thought I’d be done by now, but as it turns out there are a few more things that popped up on my radar that made me go “Hmmm. Now that needs a little more awareness.” So we need to talk about cognitive distortions…

What is gaslighting in cults & toxic groups?

What do we do when something upsets our status quo? When it confronts our deepest held ideals, threatens to dethrone our idols, and tarnish our heroes? What do we do when someone comes forward and says “I was a victim of abuse. This person [who you all held in such high regard] took something from…

What Cults Have in Common

Welcome to the third instalment of a series I hate writing. But this topic needs to be talked about – rationally, objectively, and accessibly. Because we are living in an age where anyone can pronounce themself a guru, and anyone with a slick hand at PR and the gift of the gab can amass a…

8 Key Characteristics of Cults

Hello again! This is the second in a series on what is and isn’t a cult. Its a hot topic, a hurtful topic for some and one that I’ve only written because of the overwhelming amount of questions I’ve, well, avoided. Look after yourself as you read. Remember this isn’t about me branding a group…

How Do I Know If I’m in a Cult?

Hey there friend. I hope its morbid curiosity that helped you find this blog piece. I hope its not that you, a friend or family member is questioning whether a group you are involved in is a cult. Because that is hard stuff. If it’s the latter, you have my sympathy. This piece is not…

Thank You, Dear Reader

This blog is a fledgling blog. I’ve got big plans for it, because I am the kind of person who thinks big thoughts and thinks them best on paper (or screen). But I wanted to say thanks. I’ve barely promoted this blog, as I’m still shaking off some mental restrictions on my ability to say…

Solitude vs. Isolation – Where is the healthy place to land?

I have this lovely friend. She’s been through a lot in her life, a lot that could make her bitter, introspective, and a touch soul-destroyed. But she’s more than a survivor. Her’s is a life that is now devoted to supporting other people who have survived horrendous damage – be it psychological, spiritual, physical, or…

Red Letter Christianity

“There’s nothing simple about simple” is a quote I read today. It was a quote from a potter named Eric Landon, featured on Instagram making some genius “simple” (AKA clean-lined genius artworks/pottery things I’m not even stylish enough to comment on). He was talking about the pottery, but oh gosh he could be talking about…